14 Proven Tips to improve and maintain happy relationship
Relationship is an investment. It is said that the best relationships are the ones in which both the partners feel like the luckiest person in the world. But mind it this will not happen automatically. You really need to work on your relationship and foster this feeling in each other then and then only you can enjoy the real charm of happy, healthy relationship. Good relationship improves every aspects of your life, strengthening your mind, health and your connections with others. Once the first flush of romance passes, all relationships lose their passion and sparkle. We often tend to forget the essence of small things which are necessary to have superb relationship. Over the period of time due to erratic work schedule, stress or ignorance you may feel like your relationship is not quite what it used to be? Relationship is completely subjective and no clear rules can be executed on it, yet following some guidelines may help proceeding happily. Below are the easiest ways to revive the charm in your relationship and rekindle those special feelings. These secrets are also helpful to make a good relationship work better.
1. Give Time. Value your every moment of togetherness:
How satisfied you feel in your relationship depends on how connected you feel to your partner. Best way to achieve this is spend more time together. Ask regularly your partner’s day, his/her likes, dislikes, current stressors, interests as people change over the time. Acknowledge the little things instead of ignoring the ordinary moments. Genuinely appreciate each other. Always remember the initial days when you go that extra mile to impress her/him. Give more than you receive. These little gestures matters a lot. This will ultimately make your relationship a rock-solid, which will be unaffected even when a rough patch hits.
Create your own rituals. This could be as simple as making a coffee for your husband in the morning while he lets you lie in at the weekend. Choose and make your own ‘Couples ritual’. Such rituals are the ways to connect with your partner in this crazy daily life. Such comfort of little rituals is trust giving and love enhancing. This also helps us to get through the day in the outside world.
2. Be honest
The integrity is very essential in any relationship. Be honest about everything including money. There are many cases where partners fight over the monetary issues. Don’t let the money come in between your loving relationship. Eg: It is always better you decide beforehand who will pay which bill. Honesty builds trust into your relationship.
3. Learn to communicate
Good communication is a fundamental part of any healthy relationship. When people stop communicating well, they stop relating well and eventually with time, stress takes its toll and results into disconnect. If you spend quality time together and communicate well you can easily and effectively work through any problems you are facing.
Also learn to understand the “body language “of your partner to understand what actually he is trying to say. Such little gestures leads to better understanding. Don’t assume the things, express clearly to avoid any confusion. If you don’t address problems in time then there are chances that it won’t be resolved ever. If he is inconsiderate and you don’t tell him that then he will keep treating you badly. So just be clear and tell him that you don’t like being disrespected. Ask for what you want nicely. Constantly compromising your need for others’ will build resentment and anger.
4. Work together
Research has proved that the couples who work together stay together. Always help each other with chores and other necessary things like cooking, cleaning, re-organizing etc. When you are together and not doing them creates tension, anger. Also always doing them solely creates unfair expectations. Act as team of equals. Understand the thing as if you finish any chores together in half time then rest half time you both can enjoy some quality time together. Otherwise one person will totally get exhausted and you will miss those special moments which could have happened.
5. Pay attention to the tiny things that bother your partner.
Here we are not talking of changing your style etc. but if you know that your partner really hates it when you leave the kitchen counter cluttered or keeping wet towel on the bed then try to make a point of clearing it off the moment you finish your work. These small changes do make your day better so why not to change? Nurture mutual respect to have a healthy relationship. Be kind in words and deeds.
6. Show Respect
Mutual respect is a key to happy marriage. Show respect by paying attention. Listen to your partner when he/she is talking to you. Treat your partner the way you would like to be treated. Use some golden words like “please”, “thank you”, “I think”, “I feel”, “I prefer” often. Always greet your partner with smile. It is good to see your partner is happy to see you. Such minor things help to establish the friendly, respectful rapport with your partner. Discover what makes each other happy.
7. Understand anger
Sometimes even in the healthy relationship the outburst of anger is very common. But when the same anger becomes habit in your couple life then take it seriously. Sometimes in such situation one person tends to be more critical and demanding while other tend to withdraw in response to conflict. The louder you yell, the less the other person listens to you. Just forget the angry tone you both used and think back to the last argument you had with your partner and use it to find out the actual hidden message, in that you both were trying to communicate. For example, “You are workaholic!” might actually mean” I miss you and want to spend more time with you!” If you are very angry then it is better to let your partner know that as you are very angry, you will discuss the matter once you both have cooled off. Don’t give up!.. work on your problems calmly. After all any good marriage/relationship takes two good forgivers!