How to tackle the buzzy bee relationship?
Life becomes beautiful in the companionship of loving and caring partner. But as we all know path of love is not always that romantic and smooth. Any relationship has its share of challenges that everyone has to go through. There are many relationships that are neither becoming better nor worsening but just they are. This is something like a bee buzzing around same place and not moving on. In such relationship you just keep discussing matters or doing the same things again. Of course there will be a decided comfort in familiarity and repetitive routines, but such buzzy bee relationships are more or less dead ties. Here you may not realize how such buzzy bee relationships insidiously eat your innards restricting mental, emotional, spiritual growth. But off-course this is not the end of world. We can always try to make situation better. So how to understand when a relationship is stagnating and what are the steps to improve such relationship to a beautiful relationship where there will be a warm, cared-for feel. So catch on these handy tips ..
- Is it a lack of respect?
Do you value each other’s opinions/differences as much as you did earlier? Do feel you get enough space and regard from your partner. Respect is the most crucial thing in any relationship. Try to respect each other, value your togetherness. Just don’t lose your temper just for some differences. Try to sort it out calmly. Remember Love flourishes in respect and care.
- Are your bored?
Boredom is surely a sign that your relationship is stagnating. If you feel bored around each other, seeking other company then it’s a high time that you need to look for common points of interest as well as impassion both of you. Bring back the spark in your life. Spend some quality time with each other. Lack of involvement and communication increases the distance.
- Is it one-sided show?
In many relationships it might happen when you keep giving and getting nothing in return and ultimately you have nothing more to give. This is where you understand it was a one sided relationship. But whatever the case don’t let anyone to take you granted anymore just don’t sacrifice your Self-respect, dignity.
- Big fights?
It is okay to have some differences of opinions and discussion for healthy relationship. But constant arguing, pulling each other’s down to prove superiority and denying each other’s opinion shows you have stopped appreciating each other’s views and value the same. You need to draw back and rectify it. Find out what went wrong? Be clear to yourself. Always express your things that bother you without fear of revenge and try to resolve conflict without degradation, humiliation and without insisting on being right. So understand the arguments in a relationship don’t make one of you win, but actually makes both of you lose in love. Be kind and forgiving to one another.
- Communication Issue:
All relationship problems stem from poor or no communication. Direct and honest communication is a key to healthy happy relationship. Feel comfortable while expressing your needs, desires, fears. This will improve trust and bonds of your relationship. Follow some rules. Try not to interrupt until your partner is through speaking, avoid phrases like…’’You never….” Or …” You always….”. Always use body language to show you are listening. Put your thoughts in a nicer way.
- Dealing with different Goals:
“Even though your goals are different try to understand each other’s dreams, goals, otherwise it may lead to serious incompatibility issues. And last but not the least keeping any relationship active, dynamic, loving, caring is an ongoing process where some efforts are necessary from both the parties. Always support each other.
- Is it TRUST?
Do you see anything that causes you not to trust your partner? Trust is a key part of relationship. Don’t lie.. Not even little white lies. Be consistent, and sensitive to other’s feeling . Call when you say you will be on time, don’t overreact when things go wrong. Don’t be jealous. And the most important ‘Be Realistic’. Thinking your mate will meet all your needs and will be able to figure them out without your asking is myth. Ask for what you need directly. Also try to use humor, learn to let things go and enjoy one another more.
- Is it MONEY?
Always be honest about your financial situation. Don’t hide your income or debt. Make a joint budget that includes savings. Decide the monthly expenditure accordingly. Also set aside some amount for both of your to be spent as per you and your partner’s discretion.
- Is it SEX?
It is very common that even loving partners can be sexually mismatched. In such cases you should be very careful. Please understand self sexual awareness and education is very important. As sex brings us close together, releases hormones that help our body both mentally and physically. This ultimately leads to healthy couple relationship. For this you both plan some ‘Just We’ time (try to avoid the night time when everyone is tired). Try to take out some personal time whenever possible. Remember when sex is on the calendar, it increases your anticipation. Also changing things a bit also boosts your sex life. Try to bring some spice, twist in your sex life routine and then see the magic.
- Actually work on your relationship:
Finally truly look at what needs to be done and be willing to work on your relationship. Don’t think that things would have been better with someone else. Unless you look into actual problem areas now, you will land up having same issues with any other relationship you would have. Take out some time just for both of you. Sit together, listen each other. You should understand that you have a responsibility towards your spouse to take him / her along with you on your journey. This will definitely boost your inner strength and confidence. Nothing can better than the sense of encouragement from your partner to move ahead in life happily and grow together. After all relationships are like investment, the more you put in, the more you can get back.Wishing you a happy married life ahead!.. Good Luck!…